Dear Mistress Maeve,

First, I want to thank you for your column. The questions you answer and your advice and suggestions are so informative and interesting. I am hoping you can help me with this question.... Read more

Dear Mistress Maeve,

I’m a 23-year-old male, and I have been with my fiancée for almost two years. When we have sex, I have no problem getting off, but she needs me to use a vibrator on her in order to have an orgasm. Sometimes she doesn’t even want me to do it, and I just lie there next to her like a limp fish and wait for her to get off.... Read more

Dear Mistress Maeve,

I have been on and off with the same man for three years. Because our relationship has been hot and cold, I’ve never done much to address certain things about him that bother me. Meaning, each time we start up again, his same annoying habits are still there.

Well, now we’re on again, and there’s something I want to take care of — the speed at which he comes.

Every time we start fooling around, my man comes within, oh, five minutes. Maximum. His excuse? “You’re just so good!”... Read more

Dear Mistress,

Throughout our many years, my man and I have talked about having an open relationship but have never really pushed it. We've said that we'll use our best judgment and just talk about it after it happens — unless we really feel a need to get the other's blessing beforehand.... Read more

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Dear Mistress Maeve,

This seems a bit platonic for your column, but here I am.... Read more

Dearest Mistress,

I am a well respected and somewhat prominent member of my community. Add to that the fact that I am married and have kids, and everything seems great, right?

Well, yes and no. For my entire sexually active life, I have been into BDSM. I'm not sure where it comes from, but I have a desire to be tied up and tormented accordingly.

My wife, however, is not into this lifestyle, and I'm finding it hard not to want to find someone who can help me scratch this itch...... Read more

Dear Mistress,

I have this lingering, back-of-my-mind fantasy about golden showers. I recently mentioned to my boyfriend that I sometimes enjoy pissing as I orgasm while masturbating in the shower. This led to us being curious about him pissing inside of me during some sexy shower time. Just the discussion led to a sensational feeling, and I am wondering if this is actually plausible.

However much this idea turns me on, it doesn't seem terribly sanitary — and complications and infections are simply not risks I'm willing to take.... Read more

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Dear Mistress Maeve,

My boyfriend of a year and a half has always been forthcoming about his interest in getting tied up during sex. I'm open to the idea, but I'm just curious: Why do people want to get tied up? It seems counterintuitive to me. I mean, don't you want to be able to move and touch and feel during sex? When I ask him, he just says, "It's hot." Yeah, I get that, but there has to be more to it, right?

I have the bedposts and the silk scarves. I just need the reasons why.

Best,
Knotty Girl

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